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Sunday was also the 50th anniversary of the Beatles first appearance on the Ed Sullivan Show. I remember it clearly. I also remember my frustration at not being able to hear their music because of all the girls screaming in the audience.
I think they all believed themselves to be in love with one of the Fab Four, if not more.
(Kind of kinky for back then, but C'est le Vie!)
Perhaps, one of the greatest groups to ever sing about love were the Beatles. I'm going to combine both in this week's post to see if Love really is the answer!
There are good days, and there are bad days. When you're in love, everyday can be wonderful. That is until that other person in your life decides love isn't quite what they're experiencing ... at least not with you. No matter what you try to do to save the relationship, the other person has to make an effort, too. When that doesn't happen, hearts break, depression becomes a constant companion, and your world stops rotating.
Upon a rare second, when you're not looking at all the other couples and remembering how soft her kisses were, you start to notice there are other ladies around. No, you're not just looking for a replacement. In fact, why would anyone want to replace what just destroyed their life? No, you want something better ... something that will forever be loyal to you ... someone you can share all the rest of your years with and love doing it every second. Of course, good looks don't hurt!
And then, without ever expecting it, you see her standing there!
You stand there, careful not to be caught staring at her, but refusing to go over to her for fear of being rejected. Still, you cannot take your eyes off of her. The one you loved has left your mind and this new face is now filling in envisioned scenes of spending time together doing the things you both love to do. Inside, you know you don't want to blow it, yet, you know you've got to talk to her. As you draw closer to her, you scramble for something to say, something that won't make you sound like all she's sent away. Hell, why not just be blunt? What have you got to lose?
You don't want to move too fast. Tis better to be the gentleman. But, you don't want to go through the entire evening without finding out if the electricity is there. Instead of just grabbing, you look at her eyes, then down at her hand on the table, and ask if she would mind if you held her hand.
She's somewhat shocked as guys don't usually ask. Normally, she's having to dump a drink in their lap by this time. She wonders, "Could this guy be different than the rest or is he just a little more slick in making his moves?" Still, her curiosity grows. She initiates the act by sliding her fingers over yours.
Months go by and you know that the question inside your heart needs an answer. If she will only allow you to become hers forever, and her to become yours forever, life will know no sorrow. It has to be ... it is mandatory. Still, the fear of rushing, of facing rejection, of ruining a wonderful relationship keep appearing every time you consider asking. Finally, you decide you have to ask it. You buy a ring, make a vow she cannot refuse, and take the big step.
She feels it, too, as she always feels what you're feeling. It starts to worry her and she becomes a little more hard to get along with. Her words now have a sharpness that cuts deeply at times. Worst of all, the kids feel it and ask, "Are you and mommy going to get a divorce?"
Their simple words make you reconsider. You once knew you could rule the world with her by your side. Perhaps, instead of looking at what you don't have anymore, you should look at what you do have! Like the times you both helped the other through sickness, the love you both have for the children, the electricity you both shared for the other in the early years. Perhaps, marriage and love isn't as easy as many try to make it out to be. Maybe, staying together is work.
Most of all, you imagine your life without her. The loneliness and emptiness of once again, being alone, instead of with the one you love deep down inside. It's time to talk it through ... to make it work!
It's time to go a little crazy! Time to do something different! Time to go outside the norm and bring a little excitement back into the relationship. So, you get a babysitter, make reservations for a great dinner and concert, and on the way home, pull the car over and act like teenagers again!
Divorce is now out of the question. There's no reason to seek out anyone else. In fact, you are so confident in your relationship, you know the answer to strange questions without ever having to ask. The answer will always be "Yes."
The walks together are still enjoyed, but there's a dark cloud overhead that brings about a fact of life that no one wants to accept, but must. Sooner or later, the other will be alone. All they'll have is the memories of a long life with the one they loved. Whether there be an afterlife or not, the prayers will continue of hopes of once again being together. One, in which, hands held close will once again be filled with the electricity of true love.
It's a fact of life.
It's a fact of love.